Some people really need to get a grip of themselves. I usually don't get angry with people, but this time it's gone a bit too far and it's frustrated me to the point that it's actually making me very angry. I don't like this feeling, but seriously people!
There is someone here who I have become friends with...we related with each other on the basis that we are both from the Toronto area...but seriously...she's taken things a little too far and frankly, I've had enough. I don't want to give up on friendships, but I also don't want to be walked on like I'm a doormat.
1) She is obsessed with a guy back home, goes around calling him her hubby and such...the guy doesn't even acknowledge her existence. Fine, whatever, people can do what they like...what bothers me is that she feels that it is her place and that she has the right to compare her "relationship" with this guy to my relationship with my life long partner. I'm sorry, but no...it's not the same damn thing!! For one, my man acknowledges me and we talk all the time...the two of us are in love and it is a love that will last forever!!!! We are building a relationship on a friendship! But constantly this girl is saying that what I have with my man is exactly the same as what she has with hers...IT'S NOT...for crying out loud!! She's so concerned with just getting a "reaction" from him but then turns around and complains when other people say that they are getting engaged or are in a happy relationship. Seriously...get a grip!
2) With school..she is always freaking out about things WAY before there ever needs to be a freak out. She goes on and on about how she wants to do well, but she spends all her time freaking out about wanting to do well that she never approaches anything with a clear head. She EXPECTS me to explain things to her, and I'm sorry, I don't have time to always do that. I will help where I can...cause that's what I do...I help people...but if someone isn't even going to listen to what I have to say to help them or take any of my advice why should I continue to help them?! I know that sounds harsh, but my whole life people have taken advantage of my giving nature and treated me like the doormat of life, only paying attention to me or pretending to like me when they want something from me. I can't do it anymore.
Seriously people, get a grip on your lives. If you need help I will more than willing help you...but if you ask for my help and take it but don't apply it...don't expect me to keep doing that forever. There is a point where it's a waste of my time....and don't pretend to like me just so that I will help you...it's not fair to me!!
Ok, enough of the rant, wow it makes me sound terrible, but it's better that I get it out here than lashing out at someone. Like I said, I don't throw friendships away, but people need to take control of their own lives and stop asking someone else to explain or lead their life for them. I have my own goals...and I'm here to work on achieving them.
I'm at law school to get my law degree so that I can go back to Canada and open my own firm and focus on helping those who can't help themselves but are genuinely looking for the help. You don't see clients going to their lawyers, asking for help and then completely disregarding what the lawyer suggests for the amount of money that they are paying or that may be at stake if it involves a trial. No....those people need the help and are willing to do what they need to to get a new grip on their lives...that's what I want to do. This girl here, that claims she is my friend...she needs to really sit down and ask herself why she is here...if she's freaking out now about a simple essay that, if you approach it with a clear mind you'll do well, then how is she going to react when she is faced with a trial where she has to prove her client's innocence...another lawyer is not going to bail her out and do all the work for her, otherwise they should get paid instead of her. She needs to stand on her own two feet and take advice that is given to her for what it is...advice...and not just information that should be thrown away...because that is being taken from someone who is of value as well.
Looking at the length of this post it would seem that I had alot bottled up inside. haha! I promise to try and make my next post a little more positive...perhaps include an excerpt from one of my essays coming up...law school is great, but I can't wait for the summer!! hahaha!
